Happiness: You Cannot Have It All

 

 

Open up your very own business. Buy a house with a maid's quarter, and if possible, pool. Buy a luxurious sportscar with the speed that reaches your heart with content. A dog who is always waiting for you on the doorstep as you go down to your vehicle.

That's the dream.

Until one day, a guy walked in my life. Yes, he is perfect. He is everything you wanted. But one problem: he's far away from the dream in life. They're both far from each other. Cannot be attained together.

Which would you prefer? A perfect lifestyle? Or the perfect partner?

Let's compare the perks of both sides.

The dream.
It's the perfect lifestyle. You can go to restaurants, treat your family with your own money. You can cruise anywhere you want. But of course, gas is the limit. You have your very own home theater, your very own game center with the latest game consoles which all men craved for. You have a loyal friend to be there whenever you needed him. He can be with you when you go to sleep, when you eat, when you want to go out and exercise. Go travel the world. Plus unlimited shopping. Perfect. But the difference is...you have no one to share it with. Yes, you may share your wealth to your parents, your friends. But having a significant other is different. What's the point of it all if it feels lonely? Empty? Incomplete?

The guy.
The perfect significant other. He has the looks. He is very caring. He is as sweet as your favorite chocolate. He is as loyal as your bestfriend in life (like a loyal friendly dog who's been with you since birth). He is as friendly as your bff. He knows how to treat you like a princess. Make you feel safe, feel warm, feel loved. He knows how to make you laugh in every way. And yes, he knows how to make you feel sad, mad and even make you cry. He seriously knows how to make you feel good. He knows you physically from head to toe. But of course, there are times that the man you wanted has his own wants. His own happiness. There are times that he will forget about you and have enjoyed his company with friends. There are times that he will be blinded by the excitement to be with his friends that he might leave you all alone at the airport with a heavy burden because you just came out from a parent's quarrel. There are times that he wants you all to himself but he doesn't belong to you wholly. But that's not a problem when you are in love. No. The BIG problem is different from those. He live very far away from you. It's like you are both at the different ends of the earth where physical communication is impossible. It breaks your heart knowing that he is beyond your reach. Cannot fill in to each other's emptiness, happiness and experience together.

How will this be solved? Will it be the perfect dream and follow the saying, "There are other fishes in the  sea"? Or will it be with the perfect guy, sacrifice the dream life and be content on a simple one?

What will it be then?
The dream life?
Or the dream guy?


A reply would be much of a help. Thank you.

Long Distance Relationship

He fetched her at the airport. She only have a day left to be with her guy. They're both inside the car, holding hands, spending every minute as if it's their last. They arrived at his house. Dropped all things on hand and held on each other's arms. Gave a passionate kiss. His arms slowly holding her waist. Her arms around his neck. And the day ended.




 

You have someone you loved. You can't picture out life without him. But due to circumstances, you have to go far away from him. So far that you both live on the opposite ends of the earth. And that's how long distance relationships start.

As we all know, long distance relationships never last. There are too many rules to follow in order for it to work. Living in the 21st century, there are too many temptations, too many bad influence around you. How can the one suffice the needs of the other one? Only trust and patience can truly make things work out.


If you are in a long distance relationship, try to avoid the following:

Lose communication

When both cannot communicate by their usual time, there is a possibility that the relationship is drifting away. That feeling when you have nothing to tell to the other person anymore. When talking or sending a message to the one you love doesn't excite you anymore or it feels annoying already. Try to share the things you have done for the day. Try to explore things and share it to the other person. Never give in to let one feel like there is nothing to talk about anymore. But make sure too that the topics you try to open up is a topic which the other person can also enjoy.

Suspicion

There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. Learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner.

Settle for a temporary replacement

One of the mistakes that a distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around Third parties, even though unintentionally, can break the mutual trust and agreement that you make.






But of course, there are also perks on having a long distance relationship. Having a LDR will make you realize how you love each other's company, how you wanted to be on each other's arms again, how incomplete life will be without the other. But despites these things, the negative traits still prevails in real life.

Think before deciding on staying on a long distance relationship.